How is a professional Thai Massage supposed to feel? Is it a feel-good sensation? Is it a blissful feeling? Is it a clinical experience? Is it a healing experience? Is it a relaxing feeling? Is it an invigorating sensation? Can it be painful? Is it a sensual feeling?
Let’s look at all of these in more detail:
1. Is Thai Massage a feel-good sensation?
Does a session always feel good? That depends on the therapist. Some of them work with the no-pain-no-gain motto, and some clients subscribe to this as well.
Some therapists work in a mechanical way, only executing fixed sequences without regard to the client’s needs, body type, or energetic patterns. That typically does not feel very good.
Based on my experience of practicing and teaching Thai Massage for over two decades, my position is that it should mostly feel good and relaxing.
Pain stimulates resistance in the body and can lead to muscles tightening up instead of relaxing. A relaxed state is always ideal for a healing response.
Certainly, tight muscles can evoke some pain. But this should be a good pain, i.e. releasing pain, and not a pain that feels sharp and damaging.
The conclusion is that Thai Massage should feel good. If you are receiving a session that does not feel good, then you should probably look for another therapist.
2. Can Thai Massage generate a blissful feeling?
Yes, it can. From my personal experience, I have often felt like I was walking on clouds after a good session. My whole body felt renewed and refreshed, and my mind was peaceful, balanced, and content.
This blissful feeling is most likely to happen if the therapist is excellent, intuitive, tuned in energetically, and if the client is able and willing to relax and let go.
3. Can Thai Massage be a clinical experience?
It should not feel clinical. It should be a holistic, energy-based experience. It should ideally be done by a sensitive and intuitive therapist who is able to listen with their hands instead of just doing something with them.
A clinical experience leaves out the soul of Thai Massage. It lacks the essence and the beauty of it.
Of course, the therapist should be technically competent. But there is more to it than technical skills.
There is creativity, empathy, good communication skills, intuitive skills, presence, and therapeutic skills. Without those, it might be clinically good, but it will bypass all the other essential elements.
4. Is Thai Massage a healing experience?
By its very nature and history, this healing art is meant to help improve conditions in the body. It is part of Thailand’s system of natural healing, and it has been used as a therapy for many hundreds of years.
To this day, countless Thais seek help from therapists to address their health issues. Done right, Thai Massage will result in healing experiences, improvement of health challenges, a balanced energy system, and maintenance of good health.
5. Is Thai Massage a relaxing experience?
It certainly should be. However often it is not. Why is that?
This system of bodywork uses a lot of stretching techniques. If therapists are inexperienced, lack sensitivity, believe in the no-pain-no-gain concept, work mechanically, or – in some cases – are even brutal, then their work will not feel relaxing.
In contrast, experienced, sensitive, intuitive therapists can put you into a trance with their work.
Here is another aspect that ties into the ‘relaxing massage’. Often it is assumed that ‘relaxation’ and ‘therapy’ do not go together. This is totally not true.
For healing purposes, the ideal state of body and mind is one of maximum relaxation. We know that most of the healing in the body takes place during sleep – a state of total relaxation.
Massage for relaxation and massage for therapy are not opposites, but perfect companions. In fact, they cannot be separated at all. Therefore Thai Massage should be as relaxing as possible.
6. Is Thai Massage an invigorating sensation?
Yes, it can be invigorating. The reason is that the many stretches activate the body in ways that can be new and refreshing. The body opens up in ways that it is not used to. It can move better, and energy flows better throughout the body.
All this can result in a feeling of invigoration, freshness, renewed energy, and more mobility.
7. Can Thai Massage be a painful experience?
Unfortunately, this can sometimes be the case. However this is not because the actual system is designed to be painful, but because the therapist is insensitive. The many stretches in this system can easily be overdone if the therapist works mechanically and without sensitivity.
That’s why it is so important that students, when learning Thai Massage, are taught more than just the mechanical elements of the techniques.
If they also learn to develop their sense of touch, creativity, intuition, and good communication skills, their session will not be painful, but relaxing, beneficial, blissful, and therapeutically effective.
It is a myth that Thai Massage is painful by nature. There are only therapists working in painful ways – and this is neither necessary nor desirable.
8. Can Thai Massage be a sensual feeling?
This is the ‘hot potato’ of them all. However, a discussion of this topic can uncover a thought-provoking idea and lead us to become better therapists.
It all depends on how the word ‘sensual’ is interpreted. It is a controversial word. The dictionary definition of ‘sensual’ can either refer to something that is ‘pleasing to the senses’, which Thai Massage certainly is.
But it can also refer to sensuality as in sexuality, and this is definitely not part of professional Thai Massage.
By its most literal definition, massage is a sensual experience. It is perceived and enjoyed through our senses. It makes you feel great, relaxed, peaceful, blissful. It is meant to be pleasing to the senses.
However, because of the close association of this word with sexuality, no professional therapist wants to have this word associated with what they are doing. Therefore the term ‘sensual’ should not be applied to professional Thai Massage.
Similarly, no professional therapist wants to be called a ‘masseuse’. It doesn’t sound professional, and it is open to other interpretations.
However, let’s dig a little deeper into this subject…
What Thai Massage clients want and what therapists project
Most of our clients do want to experience the enjoyment of a wonderful human touch. After all, how many massage clients have the intention of NOT feeling great in their session?
So how do we reconcile the client’s desire to feel good with the therapist’s desire to not come across as ‘sensual’?
Do we, as Thai Massage therapists, intentionally provide a wonderful, pleasing experience to our clients, or do we withhold it because we are worried that our intentions might be misinterpreted?
Should we block our flow of loving, healing energy along with our wonderful touch just to make sure that everyone understands how ‘professional’ we are?
Is professionalism compatible with loving, healing intentions and a great touch?
There can be a tendency among therapists to lean towards the clinical, mechanical side just to avoid any possibility of misinterpretation.
To illustrate this, let’s look at some real-life examples.
The story of an overly clinical massage
Once I was in the famous Gellert spa in Budapest, Hungary. I signed up for a massage, and for one hour a big and strong masseur went about pummeling me, slapping me, yanking me, and brushing me. That’s really how it felt to me.
It was not a pleasant experience at all. It felt more rough or even more brutal than pleasant. I’d say it was as far from sensual as you can get in a massage session.
I tried to convince myself that it had to be therapeutic somehow. I figured there must be something good about it since the Gellert is a world-famous spa. But certainly, I wouldn’t sign up for another session there.
The story of a heavenly massage
When I went back home, I booked a massage with a long-term friend of mine. She has a peaceful and beautifully decorated treatment room.
Aroma oils are being diffused, candles are burning, soothing music is playing, and she has an absolutely wonderful touch.
It is an environment that is highly appealing to all the senses. Personally, I would choose this type of setting over the Gellert any time.
She went to great lengths to provide an environment that is pleasing to the senses. And she is highly professional and always booked. People love her and her massage.
Anyone who was ever touched by her will always remember her beautiful, loving, and totally professional touch.
She has a wonderful reputation – not just because of her skills, but because of the pleasing environment which she created.
She made sure her clients had an enjoyable experience through all of their five senses:
- Her heavenly massage touch
- The aromatic smells of incense and essential oils
- The soothing sounds of the music
- The sight of the beautiful decorations in the room
- The taste of the herbal teas she provided after the session
In my mind, it was a wonderful sensual experience without being sexual in any way. It was like the ultimate experience for my senses in an energetically pure and totally professional way.
In contrast, all I remember about the Gellert therapist is that he was big and strong, and that I was glad when the massage was over.
I told myself that it must have been good for me, but in the case of my therapist friend, I did not need to convince myself.
Living your truth as a Thai Massage therapist
As far as I am concerned, I have decided to live up to my truth in my professional practice.Â
I love to receive massage that feels heavenly, wonderful, blissful, and that is professional at the same time.
My clients love this kind of experience as well. There is no contradiction here.
When Thai Massage therapists have clean energy without any sense of fear of being misunderstood, then in my experience it will never be an issue for the client either.
Denying that massage is pleasing to the senses, or insisting on a purely ‘clinical’ massage, eliminates the main reason why most people want to get a massage session – they want to FEEL better.
They don’t just want their dopamine levels adjusted or their circulation improved, or their lymph nodes flushed, although these are benefits as well, of course.
But they are not the primary reasons why most people treat themselves to a massage session.
And even if someone wants a Thai Massage primarily for therapeutic reasons, this doesn’t mean that it cannot or should not feel enjoyable as well.
Spas are designed as environments that are pleasing to the senses
Why do spas play soothing music, put flowers in the room, decorate the rooms tastefully, and use aroma oil diffusers?
Because all of these are sensory experiences. They appeal to the senses – to our senses of sight, smell, sound, and touch. They add to a wonderful massage experience that can be professional, therapeutic, and pleasing at the same time.
There is no conflict here. Our clients trust us when we are clear, confident, transparent, and have clean energy.
Therapists who are afraid of misconceptions are more likely to encounter clients who actually have those since this is part of their energy and that’s what they send out to their clients.
We should not allow fear of being misunderstood to limit us from providing the best, most pleasing, most loving, most healing, and most effective Thai Massage sessions to our clients.
How can you learn more about this?
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And we recognize that a supportive healing environment is best created if the client is relaxed, feels good, and enjoys the session.
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The author, Shama Kern, has been practicing and teaching Thai Massage for over two decades. He is the founder and director of Thai Healing Massage Academy and the creator of 20 professional online Thai Massage training courses.
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Gordon Inkeles has not only mastered the art of massage, but he is a master teacher. His descriptions and instructions are superb. Tasteful nude photographs and detailed drawings of muscles and tendons illustrate each technique. Each step of the massage is easy to understand and duplicate. One evening of review allowed me to confidently provide my wife an hour of stress relieving massage. The next hour was one of the most sensual of our 23-year marriage.Raising 4 children and balancing two careers, doesn’t allow for much stress-free togetherness. We had truly forgotten how much stress interferes with intimacy.Mr. Inkeles, we can’t thank you enough for teaching us how to give each other such a marvelous gift: the release of stress through magic fingers. Not only is it therapeutic, but it is also extremely sensual. When mom and dad are more relaxed and romantic, the children benefit also.
Hi Stephen, I have one of Gordon Inkeles’s books too, and I agree with you that there is definite value in using massage in this way. Many couples would be much better off if they would implement such a massage in their relationships. Thanks for your input!
A few days ago I had a deep tissue massage from a woman here in my small town in Australia. She had strong fingers and managed to find some really crunchy things in my muscles particularly in my neck and shoulders. I usually go for a pretty sensual Huna massage. When I walk out of the Huna I can feel very relaxed and its like I am walking a couple of inches above the ground.
The deep tissue was a bit painful, but I could feel that she had the skills to release a lot of tension that I had built up. A day later I could feel the difference, better than the Huna.
So its horses for courses. I believe there is no one style of massage which is ideal for everyone. Therapeutic can be good, and sensual can be good. It depends on your body and the skill of the masseur.
Good to hear from you again, Graham! Sure, no massage works well for everyone. Sometimes I just need a relaxing massage, just for the pleasant feeling, and sometimes I need a more therapeutic session, and I always appreciate the fact that there are so many options and therapies to choose from. As far as I am concerned, the more the better.
Hi there. First time replying on this subject, long time massage lover. I have been receiving regular deep tissue massages for a year, and even though my massage therapist applies deep pressure that might be uncomfortable, he still has a very sensual touch. You don’t have to be a butcher to be able to work a muscle on a deeper level! And, Yes, touching is sensual, but sensual does not have to be sexual and I thoroughly appreciate it!
Exactly my thoughts. 🙂
Hi – I am a stranger to this website, but I found the article an awakening so thank you. I qualified as an aromatherapist more than ten years ago but have never been able to make an income from it because I am male and there is a lot of suspicion out there.
Through a charity auction for the local Wellbing Centre I offered a massage to the lucky winner – the winning bid was passed over twice before I received my client.
Nevertheless I the masseur and she the recipient of the massage experienced the most professional and sensual massages and that is before I came across your article. I love to help an individual become aware of their own Divinity and to share in realising my connection with all beings through the gift of massage; both giving and receiving. Namaste. Carl
Hi Carl and welcome, now you are not a stranger anymore. It seems that you intuitively understand the concept of massage and sensuality. Good for you, and I hope you will continue to give people wonderful professional and blissful massage treatments.
hmmm…i most appreciate detailed work that is ‘enveloped’ in long, sensual strokes…when the therapist’s intention is very clear to provide a professional massage with loving presence it can be powerfully healing.Thanks for putting it out there, Shama!
Thanks Heidi, I like your definition of sensual massage as a professional massage with loving presence.
Hi, Shama, I think the type of massage you resort to depends on the client. Since a professional therapist can work on all levels (energetic, skin , muscles, bones) he can satisfy various needs, preserving the magic touch, i.e. making the procedure on the whole very pleasurable, which implies sensual.
Exactly how I feel Lydia, that was an excellent summary.
Hi Shama,
Although your article is very interesting, I prefer not to use the term “sensual”. Just like to think as giving a massage “with passion” whether is deep tissue, relaxation, thai or whatever technique is being used.
After all , as a receiver, when the massage is good, I enter in a different state of mind that goes beyond sexuality/sensuality…and as a giver , once I get into “my massage universe” , there is no way I ‘d even think about those terms.
Being a Thai-Yoga massage therapist, the “philosophy of metta” ,loving compassion, is always present in my practice so there is no room for “light or out-of-place- feelings”.
But , again , your words are very clear to understand the difference and for newcomers to the massage world not to be confused.
Best Regards
I don’t use the actual term “sensual” either when I am working with clients. I just used it to make a major distinction in this article. But I would not tell a client that I am about to give a sensual massage now, and have them read this article first 🙂
I wrote this article to clarify an issue which some therapists have in their minds. In real life application we can definitely use different words to describe the sensual aspect, like you mentioned with “metta” or “loving compassion”.
I would love to be able to advertise sensual massage services but expect that the repercussions would be swift and egregious. We live in a paranoid and litigious society. I do, however, shift into sensual mode when a client asks for a relaxation massage and I sense that they are comfortable with me and can tell by my touch what my intentions are. Often this is during a repeat session.
It is my firm belief that most of us are touch deprived from early childhood, especially men. Boys are told not to touch girls because it is not polite/wrong and we are told not to touch boys because it is weird/wrong. Girls are taught that it is fine to touch other girls but touching boys can be dangerous. Those instructions are rarely voided.
When we are finally with someone that we feel comfortable with and they touch us lovingly and sensuously, the feelings aroused are undefinable. All is bliss. But, should we stop allowing ourselves to ‘feel good’ and let our earlier training surface, the warm feelings can change to fear and distrust.
When I can find the rare therapist who is skilled in and can simultaneously deliver both the sensual and technical aspects of massage, I feel blessed. Unfortunately, those are few and far between and they either: 1) are extremely difficult to get an appointment with, 2) are for me prohibitively expensive, or 3) move on to a different area or career. I am now, again, looking for another that is both highly talented and sensual. Wish me luck.
Mike
I know, it is not easy to find such therapists. And it is not easy to strike a balance between professional training in a “paranoid and litigious society” and our natural sensual feelings. Like you said, those therapists who can deliver the technical and the sensual aspects skillfully will never have a lack of clients.
To me, there is a beautiful intimacy to be shared between Thai Massage bodyworker and recipient. I don’t find this intimacy to be sexual in nature but it is certainly sensual! As I perform a massage, I am thinking about how the particular technique feels, how good it feels (because I always make sure that I experience a new technique personally, both giving it to someone as a practice, and teaching the practice recipient to do at least part of the technique on me), and I am certain the pleasurable sensation I am remembering is transferred to my recipient. The energy exchange between bodyworker and recipient when this kind of sensual sharing connection is made actually offers me a lovely “high” that lasts sometimes for several hours after the massage is completed.
Thanks Nancy, you expressed this very beautifully.
Shama, THANK YOU! This is a very important topic and often Elephant in the room. I have enjoyed reading all the comments above and feel this is a safe forum to be honest. I would imagine anyone that pursues this field understands how sensuality plays a role in Thai Massage and is either inclined toward that direction or not. I feel a natural tendency in that direction in most cases whether the client is male or female. However there is a very different energy when I am with a male client. The exchange is often palpable. The line of sexuality is never crossed, but the beauty of slow, rythemic, touch that is the essence of Thai Massage can be a blissful experience within the boundary of professionalism.
This is an interesting perspective which you outlined. There is a beauty in sensuality which remains separate from sexuality. However this is only possible if we don’t have fear around this subject and if we are crystal clear on our boundaries.
If the distinction between sensuality and sexuality is not clear in our minds, then fear comes up and we gravitate to a totally non-sensual touch which feels more mechanical and does not allow us to express ourselves fully in massage therapy.
However semantics will always play an important role here. If even the dictionaries can’t agree on the meaning of the word “sensual”, how can we expect people to agree on one meaning.
In my mind sensual runs on a different track from sexual. For me sensuality means to perceive the beauty of life through the senses. There is no sexual undertone for me. But I know that not everyone sees it in the same way.
I believe they can be very professional it’s all about setting boundaries and expectations before the client even arrives for their massage.
In many cases the client will already have their own sense of expectations from their massage experience which as they often do differ vastly from the masseuses expectations.
So i think it’s important that both parties are clear what is to be expected and where the boundaries lie.
I totally resonate with your views on this subject Shama. I always feel that there is something about massage, and Oriental massage in particular, which is subversive to the dominant paradigm – and that’s what I like about it. We are stepping over the usual boundaries that we keep between each other, with a condition of mutual trust. I always feel an overwhelming sense of gratitude that I am able to enter such a quiet and intimate space with another being, to communicate with their soul through touch. And I feel that their true healing comes from having someone listen and be present with them, and their suffering, for the entire length of the session: an acknowledgement of their being which can be so rare in our mechanised, medicalised lives. The power of this work isn’t something that can be grasped or objectified by a culture of isolation and compartmentalism. The sensual power of touch is primal.
Branan, thanks for this very eloquent and meaningful reply.
Do you ever come to Illinois?
Highly unlikely. I rarely visit the US since I spend most of my time in Thailand.
Good Information. Thank you